Giving It Up! (Sexual Endurance 6 of 6)
- “You know you want it.”
- “C’mon if you love me you’ll let me.”
- “I promise, we won’t go all the way.”
- “It’s not really sex.”
- “Everybody’s doing IT.”
- “You have needs and I have needs… right?”
- “I really do love you.”
Guys are known for saying anything to get a woman to “give it up.” They will say anything and do everything they can to wear down the woman’s resistance until she has no more endurance and finally gives up the fight. (I am not insinuating that all situations are this way, I am just going with the stereotype).
Sexual endurance has several sides:
- Men need to have it to control (put to death) their sinful passions
- Women need to have it to withstand the sinful efforts of various men
- Churches need it to stand strong against outside pressures
It appears to me that society has lost most sexual restraint and is giving into sinful passions and at times it appears that society has declared war on sexual integrity in a schizophrenic manner (a state characterized by the coexistence of contradictory or incompatible elements—dictionary.com).
On the one hand, society is somewhat outraged at people like Tiger Woods, Jesse James, Former Senator John Edwards, Former New York Governor Eliot Spitzer, and Former President Bill Clinton for their sexual “mishaps”. On the other hand, society is overwhelmingly sexualized with television & movie content, commercials, musical lyrics, and the percentages of cohabitation & adultery. This sexualized mentality trickles down to little children.
4th and 5th graders are teasing each other for being virgins; middle schoolers are actively having sex with each other, while others are proud to say they’re homosexual or bi-curious; the number one users of internet pornography are boys 11-17 years old. And though people are shocked when faced with the reality of this, what is more shocking is Christian denominations debating whether to approve sexual sins, just to increase attendance.
The General Assembly of the United Methodist Church had such a debate this past month. The idea of sexual endurance is a concept that the church needs to have. I do not see any where in the Gospels where Christ gave in to popular pressures, be it from general society or the church.
When churches are debating to endorse or at least remain quiet about any form of sex outside the sexual expression between a man and woman in the covenant of marriage, then one can conclude that the members of the church lack sexual endurance or at the least lack a knowledge of what Scripture teaches concerning the expression of sex.
I suggest that we lack in sexual endurance when we neglect the Scriptures and focus on our own logic and understanding, and focus on our own brokenness.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne. Think of all the hostility he endured from sinful people; then you won’t become weary and give up. After all, you have not yet given your lives in your struggle against sin. (Hebrews 12:1-3)
Don’t give up! Run the race with endurance.