Sex ED: Sexual Confusion

“Great and Godly sex starts between the ears long before it starts between the legs.”—Craig Groeschel

An examination of our television shows and commercials, movies, magazine covers and articles, popular song lyrics and music videos, and various radio personalities would suggest that our culture is extremely sexualized. People are people regardless of the place and time in which they live, be it in 2012 B.C. or 2012 A.D.

As far back as Genesis (the Bible book, not the band) the expression of our sexuality has been a focal theme for generation after generation.  The Apostle Paul addressed a group of Christians “gone wild” with their sexual expression in his letters to the Corinthians.  Because of what I see as a similar situation not only in society, but also in the church as well, I’ve decided to write a series titled, “Sex Ed,” starting with today’s idea of “Sexual Confusion.”

Sex Ed starts in the mind.  We must develop a proper understanding of the intended purpose of sex.  Regardless of our understanding and spiritual beliefs, we will experience either positive or negative consequences based on our sexual behavior.  

Paul writes to the church at Corinth, “Don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.” (I Corinthians 6:16)”

This was not a new teaching, as far back as Genesis 2:24 this was common knowledge.  Even Jesus is recorded in Mark 10:8 as referring to the act of sex as a man and woman becoming “one flesh.”

The act of sex is more than a physical intimacy; it is also an emotional, psychological, and spiritual bonding of the two. 

Paul uses the example of a man having sex with a prostitute to express exactly this point.  When a man seeks sex from a prostitute, he has one desire on his mind and in reality it’s not a Pretty Woman story, which by the way would have ended in divorce.  The man expects to pay the woman for sex: a self-centered relief of his sexual desire and go on his way; however, he gets more than he bargained for.  Whether he realizes it or not, he becomes one with her physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually, yet he may not even know her name.  This bonding and any more with others will significantly impact any potential for a successful marriage bonding.

The confusion occurs when one thinks the physical connection of sex can be separated from the emotional, psychological, and spiritual connections of sex.  They can’t be separated; they come in a bundle package for the purpose of marriage.  Why do I say, “For marriage?” Because Genesis 2:24 refers to the union or marriage of a man and woman where it is written, “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”

The first learning point in our Sex Ed is the only God approved sex is that between a man and woman within the covenant of marriage.  

I pray that as we begin our Sex Ed series, that you will allow God to open your heart and that any arguments you may have would be settled with God’s Word.

“Great and Godly sex starts between the ears long before it starts between the legs.”—Craig Groeschel