Sex ED: The “F” Word

FORNICATION— the Bible’s “F” word.

FORNICATION– the Bible’s “F” word. Have you ever heard of it? If you grew up in church like I did, you not only heard of it but you also read it in the Bible. More recent translations have replaced that term with “sexual immorality.” Do you have a better idea to what the word might refer? Let’s start by seeing what the New Testament says concerning this term:

1.  Flee from sexual immorality. (I Corinthians 6:18)

2.  You should avoid sexual immorality. (I Thessalonians 4:3)

3.  Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality. (Colossians 3:5)

4.  But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality. (Ephesians 5:3)

5.  The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality. (Galatians 5:19)

Would you agree that these verses give the impression that whatever “sexual immorality” means, that it is not good for us and that we should avoid it?

As we continue our Sex ED study, keep in mind our point of view for this series: “Great and Godly sex starts between the ears long before it starts between the legs.”

So let’s establish the meaning of fornication and sexual immorality. The two words are translated from the same Greek word “Porneia (Por-Ni’-ah); meaning illicit sex including adultery, incest, premarital sex, or any extramarital sexual arousal.”  This meaning would suggest that any sexual activity or arousal outside the covenant of marriage would be considered sexual immorality, something for us to stay away from.  And Yes! This is were we get our English word “pornography.”

Let’s be clear, these Scriptures are not suggesting sex is bad; in fact, God created sex. The first sexual intercourse is recorded in Genesis 2:24, and in the next verse the phrase “no shame” is used. Sex expressed in the way God created it is not shameful; however, sex outside God’s intention is shameful.

You may ask, “how do you know God does not want us involved in sexual immorality?” Well, first, there are five Bible verses already written in this article that provide that reasoning, but in case more is required, let’s expand I Thessalonians 4:3, which reads, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality.” That should settle the issue of God’s will, but just as people are people regardless of the time and place they live, we always try to work around the language. Do you recall the first time we did that? It was in the Garden of Eden when the serpent said to Eve, “Did God really say…”

Kind of sounds similar to when a former United States President said, “I did not have sexual relations with that woman.” Really? He is not alone in his logic.  We all have been there for one thing or another.

But praise God the Bible has another big “F” word for us: FORGIVENESS!

I pray that you are able to allow the Spirit of God to speak to your heart as we continue our Sex ED series and that your life would reflect sexual integrity in our sexualized society.

Sex ED: It’s not “YOUR” Sex

“Great and Godly sex starts between the ears long before it starts between the legs.”—Craig Groeschel

The world does not revolve around you!  Once upon a time it was popular to think the earth was flat and the sun revolved around the earth.  Now we know the earth is round, and it is the earth that revolves around the sun.

Within the church, it’s often popular to think that we are the center and God revolves around us.  We tend to think more of ourselves than we ought; we tend to think that God placed us on this earth for Him to serve us and bless us with every one of our desires.

For those of us who have responded to God’s Spirit, we are to change the way we think from everything being about us to everything being about God.  This thought concept applies to every area of our lives including our relationships and our sex.

Paul writes in I Corinthians 6: 19-20, “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”

When we examine the Temple in the Old Testament we see how God was extremely detailed with his requirements for the temple in which His presence would dwell.  The integrity of the building and its contents mattered!  Paul explains that we are now the temple, and that reality was made possible by God giving his son as a sacrifice for our sin.  Jesus paid the price for us, so we did not have to; and a thorough study of the Old Testament reveals that it was impossible for humankind to pay an adequate price for our sin; it took an act of God.  If, as you read this, that price is not clear to you, I recommend a viewing of the Mel Gibson movie, The Passion of the Christ, to gain some perspective.

After referring to our bodies as the temple of God’s Spirit, Paul then makes the point that we no longer belong to ourselves: who we are does not and our bodies do not.

The Scripture is clear: we are to not use our bodies in a way that does not honor God.  The only sex that honors God is that between a man and a woman in the covenant of marriage.

Our sex no longer belongs to us, sex becomes God’s wedding gift; however, we can taint that gift if we choose to involve ourselves in sex that is contrary to God’s desire and plan for us.

Paul writes to the Romans, “Dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him.” (12:1)

Clean Heart for Men Sex Ed learning points:

  1. The only God approved sex is that between a man and woman within the covenant of marriage. 
  2. As a believer, sex no longer belongs to us; it is God’s wedding gift.

“Great and Godly sex starts between the ears long before it starts between the legs.”—Craig Groeschel