Expanded Focus: Men Helping Men to be Men

Many times men are trying to figure out how to live life as a man.  Clean Heart for Men has  an expanded focus to focus on all men related issues.  Men are dealing with a plethora of issues ranging from fatherhood to business ethics to living with integrity in a sexualized world. Many men are trying to figure out how to fix a marriage, or keep a second marriage from the same mistakes as a first, how to parent a step-child, or deal with a teen-age son or daughter rushing into young adulthood, among many more situations.

These are just some of the men related issues we tackle head on in Clean Heart for Men.  We invite you to join us and see if this is for you.  Clean Heart offers a place where you can develop trust and accountability in a confidential environment with other men who are walking a similar path as you…but not walking it alone.  We are here to help guide, discuss, and encourage you as you live out what it means to be a man in todays world.

You may be wondering. why the change?  Originally Clean Heart started out as a need for an addictions group that involved all types of addictions.  The group started to attract many men who had sexually related issues and required a more narrowed focus.  Since starting Clean Heart in Medina, the group has developed a focus that is more broad.  Yes we still address sexually related issues, but we also address many other issues related to men.

One of the biggest lies we can believe is that we can walk the road of manhood alone.  We were not created to live life alone, and yes we can be in the middle of a group and still be alone.  It takes time to develop friendships and trust.  We invite you to give Clean Heart some time to see if this is a place that can help you as you walk the road of manhood.


Team Nike

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-11


Men seem to have an “I’ll do it alone” reputation; though in sports we see again and again that no matter how good the athlete, he can’t win alone.  It’s the same with sexual misbehaviors.  Though some sexual misbehaviors are acted upon with one or more people, at its core it’s an act resulting in isolation.  

Men also have a “win at all costs” reputation.  The Greek word Nike means, “I win.”  Though in real life, “I win” is never correct.  Even in an individual sport like golf, the golfer has a caddy and even a coach.  In real life it’s always, “we win.”  

You tell yourself again and again that you will stop, only to find yourself repeating the same acts.  As long as you isolate yourself from being part of a team, you will suffer defeat.  Even the greatest athletes need their teammates, supporting staff, and coaches to compete and win.  Winning against sexual misbehavior is no different.

It takes a lot to risk exposing your heart to others. So remember that as other men show you their hearts, they’re taking the same risk.  By doing so you develop a team mentality and as you meet together you actually become a cohesive team striving for the title.  The toughest part of this journey is starting it;  showing up the first time.  Though there will be tough times ahead, once you start, the butterflies will be gone and you won’t have to try and stand alone.

The Scripture above makes total sense.  We do better when we are part of a team that is striving for the same goal.  Living life free of sexual misbehavior is a good goal to work towards.

Today focus on clearing your schedule for the next Clean Heart for Men meeting and making a point to be there.  You may even want to take it one step further and send an email to a friend or to Scott (Scott@10towns.tv) stating your decision to attend the next meeting on Tuesday at 7:00 p.m.