Parent Approved Teen Sex

According to a March 20, 2012 article by Ben Johnson of, a Planned Parenthood luncheon speaker, Dr. Amy T. Schalet, suggested that parents should allow teens to engage in sexual activity within the confines of their home.  The benefit would be that teens no longer have to hide their sexual desires from their parents and the new openness would develop closeness, previously missing, within the family.

So let’s consider the wisdom of Dr. Schalet to the wisdom of God.

God’s wisdom:

  • God, who created sex, reserves it for the covenant of marriage.
  • God, who created marriage, reserves it for after the man leaves his parents and the two become one.  (We can also infer that the woman is to leave her parents as well.)
  • God, who created sex and marriage, communicates to us in His Word (the Bible) that sex and marriage should last until death.
  • God, who created us, communicates in His Word, that a lack of sexual integrity can cause significant relationship issues.

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Dr. Schalet’s Wisdom:

  • Allow a fickle teen, who develops crushes and “love” with somebody different every few weeks or months, to engage in an activity that will unite them as “One Flesh” forever.
  • Parents should refrain from teaching their teen to control his or her sexual urges, but encourage him/her to act them out in his/her own bedroom.
  • Parents should allow teen to ruin his/her chances for a successful life-long marriage before he/she is old enough to even graduate school, vote, and live on his/her own.
  • Parents should allow the teen to repeat this behavior as s/he desires.

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God, who gave us his only begotten Son and created sex, tells us how we should conduct ourselves for our benefit and what he says is the direct opposite of the wisdom of Dr. Schalet.

Which wisdom do you think would set you or your teen up for success?

Too Sexy: A He Said, She Said Perspective

He said, by Scott:

 “My body should only be for my husband, and it’s just a sacred thing”Kylie Bisutti

For years I have been hearing from Christian women that they should be able to dress “sexy,” and that it is every guy’s responsibility to control his thoughts regardless of how “sexy” is “sexy.”  Though it is true that men need to take responsibility for their thought life, there is also a responsibility placed upon the Christian woman.

Kylie Bisutti became a Victoria’s Secret model in 2009 and after studying the Bible and considering she was a Christian growing in the faith, she decided that showing off her body in lingerie is not something a mature Christian woman should do for anyone other than her husband. 

In addition to her body being meant for her husband, Kylie realized that there were many young Christian girls looking up to her thinking that it is alright for a Christian woman to show off her body in such a manner to everyone.  She still wants the girls to be able to look up to her as a role model, and is continuing her modeling career, but a model that is dressed appropriately.

I do not know Kylie and I am sure there will be critics trying to point out inconsistencies in her life choices; regardless, concerning this decision, I commend her for making the change.

She said, by Lisa:

 For years, I have NOT been hearing from Christian women that they should be able to dress “sexy,” so I was quite interested in the story of Kylie Bisutti, a girl who in 2009 achieved every little girl’s dream, so I thought. To be a model is one of the pinnacles, the dream little girls list after the age of wanting to be a “princess.” And she definitely looks the part—beautiful! Long hair, beautiful body, beautiful face, I’m sure if I were a man she would be a “dream girl.”

So, in a society where women are told that no one has the right to tell them anything about how they should act, what they should do, and how they should dress, I was pleasantly surprised to see one of the “ideals” saying that she was having second thoughts.  She knows she has the attention of young girls who admire her and feels the responsibility of it.  You see, I don’t hear from Christian women that they should be able to dress “sexy,” because I don’t believe it and my circle of friends know it.  But, it’s not for the reasons that you think.

To dress sexy is a power in many women’s minds, and every store in America will help us in this quest, if we want it.  I don’t.  I have too much respect for my fellow brothers in Christ, and that is what they are.  They’re not men to parade in front of, to try and catch their eye, but brothers to live our lives with, work and serve alongside, and when I carry myself proudly, eloquently, and dressed in a way that honors God, I gain something we women secretly want more from men —wholehearted interest and respect.

Society used to believe in admiring the dignity of truly beautiful women who carried themselves with grace, something that God will endow each of us with if we ask it. We don’t need the sexy look to be beautiful! Don’t get me wrong, I do believe I’m beautiful, and I have a sneaking suspicion that Kylie in the long run will be considered a truly beautiful woman long after the press forgets her. And respected, and honored. Funny, I think that’s what we really want.

Author’s Note: Scott and Lisa have been married for 18 years and have three daughters.

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