Today I read an article from the Fox News.com opinion page, My Lesbian Daughter, The Bible and Sex, by Shari Johnson, January 6, 2012, who was responding to another Fox News.com article written by Pastor Mark Driscoll on January 3, 2012, What the Bible Really Says About Sex.
Ms. Johnson explained how she agreed with most of Pastor Mark’s article except for 2 points: Marriage being between a man and a woman and sex outside of marriage being a sin.
As I read her article, I was saddened as to how Ms. Johnson represents so many Christians who are facing real life situations, trying to develop a way of coping, a way of dealing with what the Bible says and the emotions of their life situation. Instead of dealing with the tension, they decide to eliminate the tension, which inevitably fails to truly remove it, they just find a way to numb themselves to it.
First of all, I went and read Pastor Mark’s article and in no way was it condemning of people who express their sexuality in any manner outside of a marriage between one man and one woman. In the article, Pastor Mark, even went as far as to point out The Apostle Paul’s writings in Romans 3: 23-26, that states that all of humanity is in need of Christ.
For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. Yet God, with undeserved kindness, declares that we are righteous. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins. For God presented Jesus as the sacrifice for sin. People are made right with God when they believe that Jesus sacrificed his life, shedding his blood. This sacrifice shows that God was being fair when he held back and did not punish those who sinned in times past, for he was looking ahead and including them in what he would do in this present time. God did this to demonstrate his righteousness, for he himself is fair and just, and he declares sinners to be right in his sight when they believe in Jesus.
There are two quotes Ms. Johnson made that I would like to address:
“I am an evangelical Christian who, I am sorry to say, used to be one of the “don’t-confuse-me-with-facts-because-my-mind-is-made-up” type of Christian.”
Yes it is sad that there has been and are good hearted Bible believing Christians who develop such narrow mindedness that they are not capable of objectively looking outside of their box of assumptions and beliefs; however, for Ms. Johnson to insinuate that an evangelical Christian who has done legitimate study and expresses his or her view with proper supports, though different from others, is something to be sorry for, is simply wrong.
“When I hear terms like “God’s design” and “Biblical marriage” I have to wonder who decides these things.”
When people say things like this, it causes me to think one of three things: first they probably do not view the Bible as God’s infallible written word, second they may have allowed the non-believing views of society to infiltrate their own with or without their awareness, or they have never done their own study of how the Bible came to be and what makes it considered to be Holy Scripture.
Yes, I agree, there have been many people who have declared a view and provided Scripture as their support while taking that Scripture totally out of context. Some of these people have done this to be malicious and others have done this simply because they themselves did not do their homework. However, the Bible says what it says and God is the one who decides what his design is and considering he created marriage, He decides what is a Biblical marriage.
Finally, we are faced with a woman who considered herself to be an evangelical Christian with certain views based on the Bible. Yet when her own child decided to live a life contrary to the Bible’s teachings, she had to develop a way of coping with the bible’s teachings and her love for her daughter. Many times when situations come close to home we reexamine our views, such as, when one’s own teen daughter becomes pregnant, one’s view on abortion may alter; or when someone we know, respect, and love does anything contrary to our beliefs, we battle the tension of the value of the person we love and the value of our view or belief. Sometimes we just need to learn to live with the tension.
I agree that it is easy to develop a view on tough issues when those issues are not in our faces, but is believing God’s word suppose to be situational? Is it only something we examine in our “religious” non-confrontational world but not in the “real” world? Maybe our love for God must outweigh our love for our friends and family. We can love our friends and family with integrity and not disown our Biblical standards.