NOW! I want it right now!
- “There are some things money can’t buy. For everything else there’s Mastercard”
- “ Don’t Leave Home Without It” (American Express)
- “ Could be cheap. Could be expensive. Visa. All you need.”
- “ Most extensive credit line for larger living” (United Overseas Bank CashPlus credit cards)
- “Kmart. Right Here. Right Now. The stuff of life” (Kmart credit)
Whether it is the ease of credit cards, payday loans, fast food, or fast-tracked careers our culture is plagued with a deficiency of patience. We desire and insist on immediate gratification verses long-term benefits.
“Because of the joy awaiting him (Jesus), he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne.” (Hebrews 12:2)
We develop sexual endurance by recognizing and establishing the true goals—God directed goals.
- For the single man to find and marry a woman of God
- For the married man to end his marriage (till death do us part) with integrity and honor
These goals go against the caveman mantra of, “I want sex and I want it now!” But then, we are not Neanderthals, we are created in the image of God; we are men of God with sexual integrity.
If you are single, the goal would be to marry a woman of God and enjoy all the benefits of that marriage, not just to have sex. If the goal is to just have sex, one can go out and easily find someone with whom to have sex or call an escort. But this type of sex is lacking.
If you are married, the goal would be to love, honor and cherish your wife viewing her as God’s daughter whom he gave to you. The goal is not to just have sex with her, but to be one with her.
If your view of your wife is her being your “sex-mate,” then your relationship is focused on yourself. If she is not giving enough for you, you will most likely go elsewhere to find sexual fulfillment.
Consider this thought: What if she were in an accident, and as a result sexual activity of any form became impossible for her. Are you still committed? Would you still be committed even if that meant you would not have sex for the rest of her life, which could be yours as well?
Jesus was focused on the end result of his life, not the immediacy of it. When he was led into the wilderness to be tempted, (Matthew 4: 1-11) Satan took what Jesus was destined for and offered him an immediate way of getting to the finish line without the work or endurance. What the Evil One offered resembled what was eventually bestowed upon Him by the Father, but it was lacking and not eternal. Jesus was willing to suffer and endure because he was focused on the end of the race, not on the current check point. Jesus suffered and endured because he knew in order to successfully reach the finish line one could not cheat to get there.
Reaching the finish is only one part. Reaching it with integrity is the other.
In certain circles being a 40-year-old-virgin could seem embarrassing. But would the wait be worth it if God brought that certain woman of God into your life when you are 45 years old? If your marriage was enjoyable and free from baggage from age 45 until you die at 75, would it be worth the wait?
Or would it be better to have short sexual relationships leading up to the 30 year marriage? But then you would have to consider the baggage you would bring into your marriage, if it lasted that long. Would it be the same marriage?
If we live with patience and endurance the payout will come for us. It is always better to follow God’s advice than our conflicted and confused thinking.
- Establish the correct goals
- Focus on the finish line
- Do everything you can to stay committed to the course
- Endure until the end
I know, you’re thinking, “this all sounds fine as long as I can see the finish line but what if it is nowhere in sight?
Are you willing to run the race even if you do not know where the finish line is or when you will cross it?
“Let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.“ (Galatians 6:9)