Sexy Music

  • What are the current sexual views of our culture? 
  • How have these views influenced my sexual views?

There are many ways to determine society’s sexual views.  We can:

  • Examine the lyrics of  the top songs in various genres
  • We can look at the content of top rated television shows
  • We can look up research articles on the topic
  • We can also just pay attention to the people around us

So we are going to take this and the next three posts to do just that.  In this post we will examine the lyrics of the top songs of today August 16. 2012. top 100 top 5

(1)   Whistle (Flo Rida):  This song is about kissing with an oral sex euphemism through-out.

(2)   Lights (Ellie Goulding):  This song appears to be about remembering your safe times at home with one’s parents and siblings.

(3)   Call Me Maybe (Carly Rae Jepsen):  This song is about a girl who instantly falls for a guy and gives him her number.

(4)    Wide awake (Katy Perry): This song is about a couple who were either married or cohabitating and they have ended their relationship.


“This song in particular is a dose of reality. It’s kind of like coming down from a high. You’ve been on cloud nine for so long, and it can’t always be so sweet and sometimes you need to realize that, and you have to pick yourself up and move forward and face the facts of life and know that this is just a lesson you learn and you’re stronger because of it.” –Katy Perry (


(5)   Payphone (Maroon 5):          The lyrics suggest that a couple had broken up and were living together.  They were married or cohabitating, either way they were sexually involved with each other. top 5 Country Charts

(1)   Angel Eyes (love and theft):  Is about a guy who has an eye on a preacher’s daughter wondering what it would be like to have sex with her.

(2)   Kissed You Good Night (Gloriana):  About a couple who ended their date and each wished they would have kissed goodnight and eventually they do.

(3)   Come Over (Kenney Chesney): This song is about a guy wanting a girl to come over to “warm his bed.”  The guy makes it clear that it does not have to last forever and it does not matter if they work things out, he just wants her in his bed.

(4)   Over (Blake Shelton): This song is about someone wanting to win another over.  The song appears to be appropriate but I do want to point out that it is another song about a relationship.

(5)   Pontoon (Little Big Town):  This song is about a party out on a pontoon boat on the lake.

These songs suggest the following views on sex:

  • Oral sex between two people who are not married is acceptable
  • Cohabitation is acceptable
  • Divorce is acceptable (I realize this is a separate issue.  I bring it up to just suggest that society views divorce as not being a choice of last resort with conflict in marriage)
  • One night stands are acceptable
  • Lusting (imagining sex) in one’s mind for another is acceptable

The songs provide a little insight into societal views on sex.  You could argue that the view is only from the writer of the song but songs don’t get to be at the top of the charts if the public is not requesting them.  Most people enjoy musical lyrics they identify with.

One major theme in all of these songs is “relationships”.  Our society is obsessed with relationships yet our society has a difficult time with the One who created us for relationship with each other and with Him.

Next up we will look at some television shows.

Which way Do You Swing?

Which way Do You Swing?  (Societal versus Biblical Sexual Perspectives—2)

As I start this series of Societal versus Biblical Sexual Perspectives, I would like to emphasize that I have a code for life and that code is the Holy Bible.  I understand that many people use the Scriptures to support many different things while taking various quotes of the Bible out of the context of the meaning of the author.

As I present Scripture it is with the goal of allowing my presentation to be in context with the author’s meaning and using other parts of the Scripture to further support that understanding.

Also my intended audience are those who consider themselves believers of the Holy Bible—followers of Jesus Christ.  If you do not consider yourself a “Christian,” you’re welcome to read and interact but keep in mind; I am speaking to the Church.

In 2 Peter, chapter 1, Peter stresses to all who share in the faith of Jesus Christ that the Scriptures are more than made-up stories or just another book.  The Scriptures are inspired by the Spirit of God Himself.  We who believe must give the teachings of Scripture the respect and honor that we would if God Almighty were to stand in front of us.

In Chapter 2, Peter talks about false teachers who will “cleverly teach destructive heresies” (v.1).  This is the reason I am starting this series.  I have seen this officially occurring within various Protestant Denominations and unofficially among fellow believers for years.

“Many will follow their evil teaching and shameful immorality.  And because of these teachers, the way of truth will be slandered.”  (2 Peter 2:2)


This is happening in our society right before us.  When people discuss sexual views I here again and again the phrase, “forget the Bible.”  I even had a friend from way back who was once a professing follower of Christ use the phrase, “cherry picked verses;” in reference to versus that are used to point out his specific sexual practice as being sinful.

Many are following in many different areas of sexual immorality.


The Greek word here is “aselgeiais” meaning licentiousness. According to licentiousness means (1) sexually unrestrained (2) unrestrained by law or general morality; lawless; immoral (3) going beyond customary or proper bounds or limits; disregarding rules.

The morality, rules, boundaries, and limits I am referring to derive from God’s Word.


It is one thing to have those who do not profess to be a follower of Jesus to argue for unrestrained sexual activity, but when followers of Jesus and “Christian” denominations disagree among themselves and advocate for behavior that even an Atheist would say the Bible adheres to, then the Truth of God’s Word becomes muddied in the eyes of the non-church world.

In all of this the Truth of God’s Word is being slandered, but none the less, His Word is Truth and it is for our benefit. 


 “With an appeal to twisted sexual desires, they lure back into sin those who have barely escaped from a lifestyle of deception. They promise freedom, but they themselves are slaves of sin and corruption. For you are a slave to whatever controls you. And when people escape from the wickedness of the world by knowing our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and then get tangled up and enslaved by sin again, they are worse off than before. It would be better if they had never known the way to righteousness than to know it and then reject the command they were given to live a holy life.” (2 Peter 2: 18-21)

As I read this I do not believe that Peter is referring to someone who struggles with sin like Paul describes in Romans 7.  He is referring to those who say their sexual immorality is not sinful.

As we enter this series we should have an attitude that consists of these thoughts:

  • God created everything including us
  • God created male and female
  • God created sex
  • God defines the rules for His creation
  • We have no right or authority to argue the creator’s guidelines

We cannot be a believer and follower of Jesus Christ and make up our own rules for our sexuality and expect it to be ok with God Almighty.  We cannot swing both ways.  We either live according to God’s Word or we don’t.