Sexy Music

  • What are the current sexual views of our culture? 
  • How have these views influenced my sexual views?

There are many ways to determine society’s sexual views.  We can:

  • Examine the lyrics of  the top songs in various genres
  • We can look at the content of top rated television shows
  • We can look up research articles on the topic
  • We can also just pay attention to the people around us

So we are going to take this and the next three posts to do just that.  In this post we will examine the lyrics of the top songs of today August 16. 2012. top 100 top 5

(1)   Whistle (Flo Rida):  This song is about kissing with an oral sex euphemism through-out.

(2)   Lights (Ellie Goulding):  This song appears to be about remembering your safe times at home with one’s parents and siblings.

(3)   Call Me Maybe (Carly Rae Jepsen):  This song is about a girl who instantly falls for a guy and gives him her number.

(4)    Wide awake (Katy Perry): This song is about a couple who were either married or cohabitating and they have ended their relationship.


“This song in particular is a dose of reality. It’s kind of like coming down from a high. You’ve been on cloud nine for so long, and it can’t always be so sweet and sometimes you need to realize that, and you have to pick yourself up and move forward and face the facts of life and know that this is just a lesson you learn and you’re stronger because of it.” –Katy Perry (


(5)   Payphone (Maroon 5):          The lyrics suggest that a couple had broken up and were living together.  They were married or cohabitating, either way they were sexually involved with each other. top 5 Country Charts

(1)   Angel Eyes (love and theft):  Is about a guy who has an eye on a preacher’s daughter wondering what it would be like to have sex with her.

(2)   Kissed You Good Night (Gloriana):  About a couple who ended their date and each wished they would have kissed goodnight and eventually they do.

(3)   Come Over (Kenney Chesney): This song is about a guy wanting a girl to come over to “warm his bed.”  The guy makes it clear that it does not have to last forever and it does not matter if they work things out, he just wants her in his bed.

(4)   Over (Blake Shelton): This song is about someone wanting to win another over.  The song appears to be appropriate but I do want to point out that it is another song about a relationship.

(5)   Pontoon (Little Big Town):  This song is about a party out on a pontoon boat on the lake.

These songs suggest the following views on sex:

  • Oral sex between two people who are not married is acceptable
  • Cohabitation is acceptable
  • Divorce is acceptable (I realize this is a separate issue.  I bring it up to just suggest that society views divorce as not being a choice of last resort with conflict in marriage)
  • One night stands are acceptable
  • Lusting (imagining sex) in one’s mind for another is acceptable

The songs provide a little insight into societal views on sex.  You could argue that the view is only from the writer of the song but songs don’t get to be at the top of the charts if the public is not requesting them.  Most people enjoy musical lyrics they identify with.

One major theme in all of these songs is “relationships”.  Our society is obsessed with relationships yet our society has a difficult time with the One who created us for relationship with each other and with Him.

Next up we will look at some television shows.

Cohabitation- Try it Before You Commit

Over the Christmas season I have seen many commercials and as these commercials were played over and over again, my wife and I came to the decision that some things just don’t need to be advertized, such as, condoms.  This commercial was aired about 500 quadzillion times and may have led to some very sensitive conversation between some parents and their little children.

Many of the new shows coming to television were also being advertized and I noticed that a bunch of them center around relationships and involved sex with non-married people.

It never ceases to amaze me how society will watch entertainment television and movies that involve sexuality with no boundaries, accept those “no boundary” values and live them out in their own lives and then wonder why their personal lives and society produces negative results.  Results like high divorce rates, broken families, expectations that everyone will eventually cheat on the other, and a host of others.

A few of the commercials we viewed over the past few weeks allow the customer to try the service for thirty to sixty days before committing to purchase.  Sadly a large number of people treat marriage with the attitude.  They say, let’s try it to make sure we are meant for each other.  What these people don’t understand is that once they make this decision they have nearly committed themselves to ending their relationship or if they do marry, to divorce.

When we enter a marriage, that marriage should be about serving our spouse; sadly most are about serving “me.”  Matter-of-fact we should be focused on serving our spouse long before we marry them or even know them.

Cohabitation is not about serving our spouse, but is all about being served.  This is the main ingredient for an unsuccessful marriage. did a sermon series titled, “Growing to the Chapel,” and they produced a great video that sheds light on this issue in a bit of a humorous way.  If the video speaks to your heart, I would suggest looking up the sermon series and listening.  Let’s reconsider trying out a wife or husband before we actually commit, let’s reconsider “shacking up.”