Expanded Focus: Men Helping Men to be Men

Many times men are trying to figure out how to live life as a man.  Clean Heart for Men has  an expanded focus to focus on all men related issues.  Men are dealing with a plethora of issues ranging from fatherhood to business ethics to living with integrity in a sexualized world. Many men are trying to figure out how to fix a marriage, or keep a second marriage from the same mistakes as a first, how to parent a step-child, or deal with a teen-age son or daughter rushing into young adulthood, among many more situations.

These are just some of the men related issues we tackle head on in Clean Heart for Men.  We invite you to join us and see if this is for you.  Clean Heart offers a place where you can develop trust and accountability in a confidential environment with other men who are walking a similar path as you…but not walking it alone.  We are here to help guide, discuss, and encourage you as you live out what it means to be a man in todays world.

You may be wondering. why the change?  Originally Clean Heart started out as a need for an addictions group that involved all types of addictions.  The group started to attract many men who had sexually related issues and required a more narrowed focus.  Since starting Clean Heart in Medina, the group has developed a focus that is more broad.  Yes we still address sexually related issues, but we also address many other issues related to men.

One of the biggest lies we can believe is that we can walk the road of manhood alone.  We were not created to live life alone, and yes we can be in the middle of a group and still be alone.  It takes time to develop friendships and trust.  We invite you to give Clean Heart some time to see if this is a place that can help you as you walk the road of manhood.


Focus on Your Focus

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Avoid all perverse talk; stay away from corrupt speech. Look straight ahead, and fix your eyes on what lies before you.  Mark out a straight path for your feet; stay on the safe path. Don’t get sidetracked; keep your feet from following evil.

(Proverbs 4:23-27, NLT)

Devotionals-2“I didn’t mean for this to happen!”  Sound familiar?  Most of the time when we get ourselves into bad situations, we typically did not plan for the repercussions of our actions.  Sometimes we even started out with good intentions but ended up in a pit of despair.   

The wisdom found in this Proverb tells us to guard our hearts for our hearts determine the direction of our lives.  

For those of you who like checklists, this bit of wisdom from Proverbs gives us just that. This list reflecting a Clean Heart for Men focus is as follows:

  • Avoid all perverse talk; stay away from corrupt speech.  Avoid any sensual or sexual talk with or about any woman.  When you talk sexually with your wife, typically that is not perverse or corrupt.  There are certain conversations that a man should not have with other women.  Those conversations only open the door for poor decisions.  This also means no sexting, or provocative emails as well.  Avoid ALL perverse talk.
  • Fix your eyes on what lies before you. Determine your focus!  Your focus should be to live a life of sexual integrity, to be faithful to your wife, to live a life pleasing to God.
  • Mark out a straight path for your feet.  Make a plan for how you will remain fixed on that goal.  This may include attending Clean Heart, developing a few friendships with men who are mature in the Christian Faith, being involved in a church community, reading your Bible everyday, etc.
  • Stay on the Safe Path.  Just like a highway has signs letting you know you are still on the right road, you must learn the signs that let you know you are on the right path for your determined focus.   How will you know if you are veering off the path of integrity?  You should have some indicators like rumble strips that grab your attention and bring you back on the safe path.
  • Don’t get sidetracked.  This is why we are to guard our hearts and watch our conversations.  We can be so easily distracted and before we realize it our focus is no longer fixed on the right goal and our feet get tripped up and we fall.
  • Keep your feet from following evil.  Finally don’t let your feet take you anywhere in which you could stumble and fall.  Don’t walk to or drive to a place that you know or suspect to have evil opportunities.  If you’re married, do not go to a “singles” event; if you’re driving alone stay away from the “red light” districts; and I would also say don’t let your hands take you to the wrong websites.

Today focus on your focus.  Determine the correct goal and then start walking toward that goal.  Just like a horse with blinders on, keep your gaze from anything other than your goal.  Guard your Heart!